Tuesday, November 03, 2009

yOni goes to Sexpo

I approached attending the Sydney Sexpo with a bit of trepidation. I was not at all sure what to expect and I had heard some accounts which didn’t sound too promising. However the stall fee was paid for (and not by me) and the flights booked so, equipped with some yOni.com products, my researchers hat and a healthy curiosity about exactly what a sexuality lifestyle expo would consist off, I headed off to Sydney, open to being pleasantly surprised.

The expo was vast, filling both the Hordern Pavilion and the Royal Hall of Industries. There were three stages on which, the program told me, there would be shows by a range of gorgeous guys and gals designed to tease, titillate and tantalise. The brief glimpse that I managed to get of one of these confirmed my suspicion that I wasn’t missing a great deal. Both the act and the girls themselves were incredibly fake. In fact the enormous number of manufactured bodies was one of the most disturbing things for me about the whole event. Silicone boobs, botoxed lips and fake tans were the order of the day. I conducted a small survey of the guys in the stalls around to find out if they enjoyed these ‘perfect’ bodies. To a man, they replied to ‘No!’. Which makes me wonder exactly who does!

The Sexpo clientele was varied. There were lots of groups of young guys, many of them Asian, eager to check it all out. And there were almost as many groups of young women on a similar mission. They ranged in their openness. Some seemed to slink down the centre of the aisles hardly daring to look to the left or right. They made me wonder what had prompted them to come in the first place. Some were fascinated by every stall and more than ready to party. There was a lot of alcohol consumed which, combined with the mounting sexual tension, did create a slightly ugly atmosphere at times.

And then there were my favourite group - couples of all ages, mostly enjoying themselves and open to exploring and whatever tips or tools they might find. They struck me as having the most fun and mainly using the energy to enhance their sex lives and their relationship.

As you might expect there were sex toys at every corner, from the super crass to the very classy. On the classy end, the new We-Vibe was available and the phthalate free manufacturers, Lelo, Fun Factory and Vibratex all had a presence. At the other end of the scale there were show bags stuffed with dildos, condoms and porn for $20 a pop. There were lingerie and costumes in abundance and a number of stalls promoting, spa’s, saunas and massage tools. There was soap and lollies both genitally and conventionally shaped! Something for everyone!?

Two stalls caught my attention and approval! The Tantric Breather is a small device designed to give you an auditory and kinesthetic experience of the depth of your breath, and to allow you to deepen your breathing and synchronise more effectively with a partner. And at the Clitoraid stall you could adopt a clitoris and support the creation of a hospital in Africa were surgeons will reconstruct the pleasure centre for women who have been subjected to genital mutilation.

Other than these two, what seemed to be sadly missing was any actual information about sexuality and sexual health. As the mango juicer was one of our products I found myself giving hundreds of impromptu talks on locating the g-spot. Invariably a crowd would gather. Also noticeably lacking was anyone, other than myself and the Tanric Breather guy, representing or promoting conscious, spiritual sexuality. If I go again next year I’d like to fill that gap. If you have courses or products related to sacred sexuality that you’d like me to promote then please get in touch.


Lorraine said...

Hey Beautiful Goddess, Thank you for the blog on the Sydney Sexpo. I went to Sexpo in Brisbane a few years back with my (then) partner. I had imagined something more wholesome, healthy, educational and sacred than I found. My impression of it was similar to what you described. I struggled particularly with the way women were choosing to present and to be treated.
I learnt that the man I was with enjoyed the energy created there. He could not understand nor be with, the 'volcano' (his word) that threatened to erupt from within me.
I was keen to leave and have not been to another Sexpo. I like your idea of being a healthy presence at Sexpo. Love to you, Lorraine Givney

Nellie Moore said...

Blessed Be,

I want to say thank you for creating this blog and your website. I know I saw the website a couple of years ago it seems when our daughter told us about your beautiful puppets.

I was lead back to you today after looking for references to Baubo on-line.

I'm so glad that I've been led back to you. I am sharing your work with my readers via my blog and a new post as well as creating links to your blog and web under the heading Divine Feminine on the left hand side of my blog.

I hope that the links are okay with you. If not please let me know and I will remove them.

We share similar passions for sharing what we love, and I'm thrilled to find a fellow traveler.

I too love what you shared about the expo. I wonder if it were created by aware Goddess women it would be something else all together.

Blessings to you,


Nellie Moore
WyseWomen LLC

Illumina Christos said...

A slow infiltration is occurring on the sexual front of human consciousness and I applaud your presence at the Sexpo.

The subject of sacred sexuality has been amplified in my life due to having an ovarian tumor 6 years ago that was full of grief around human sexuality... fear and loathing etc.

The ovary was healed and normal again after 6 months and my sexuality and resentment of men (and women), took another 2 years to be liberated from, but that brought with it the greatest peace and radiance from deep within me.

It also allowed me to have great compassion for men and run men's groups, weekends focused upon liberating man from attachment to being nurtured by the feminine and sexual obsession. (There was a women's equivalent to that as well).

So, a book has been written by me called Lovers and Initiations(copyright2009) about healing human relationship and sexuality, and the ultimate transcendence of human pain in relation to this. Its an autobiography, not yet fully edited/published.

I am a teacher of Unity consciousness inclusive of sacred sexuality and intimacy, run workshops, retreats and do personal sessions, and would love you to include some info on my work at the next Sexpo.

It would be so beautiful to remind people that it is okay to truly love and make love, to love themselves and that there is really no separation between the heart and the genitals, and when the energy flows and bridges the two, real bliss can be experience beyond a physical orgasm.

Thank you so much for all you do and the offer of service.

With love,